How not to ruin your relationship during home renovations

Posted October 18, 2019

I’ve seen first hand the stress that renovations have on couples, as they watch walls being taken down, floors ripped out or kitchens in total states of mayhem. So it wasn’t surprising to recently note a statistic that 12 percent of couples consider divorce during the remodeling process. I also read that on a scale of 1 to 10, family therapists rate remodeling projects at about a 6 for causing stress in relationships.

Remodeling is emotional – both exciting and worrisome, all bundled together. Although the work is temporary, getting through it can be hard, and especially hard on a relationship.

While not all of this can be avoided, the couples I’ve seen get through a major renovation in healthy ways are on the same page when it comes to budget, as well as style and design. Make sure you’re both onboard, both feet in. Make as many decisions ahead of time as possible, including paint colors and fixture selection.

My last morsel of advice: Coping within a deconstructed space will be unpleasant and inconvenient, so talk about how you’ll deal with that and find time and space for recharging and retreating.


Minor upgrades with a major impact

Posted October 1, 2019

You don’t always need to undertake a huge project to make changes that really pack a punch in terms of house functionality or esthetics – or both. Check out these three options!

Simple kitchen updates – backsplashes, countertops, a new sink, contemporary or vintage hardware for cupboards, and fresh paint can transform a kitchen. 

Sprucing up entranceways – installing a new front door or portico, replacing crumbling steps or adding new lighting can make a big difference on first impressions.

Revamping a powder room – the beauty of having a tiny, but frequently visited space, is that you always get a bang for your buck; replacing floor tiles or rugs, adding wainscoting and chair-rail molding, hanging a cool mirror, or installing an eye catching vanity are all reasonably priced remodels.


What to expect when you’re expecting (renovation)

Posted September 20, 2019

Trust me. If you’re prepared for a renovation, it will go smoother. You don’t want to be the person scrambling eggs, boxing cookbooks, and staring at a sink full of dirty dishes just minutes before the carpenter arrives. Here’s a few tips for getting yourself physically and mentally prepared:

  1. Talk to your family about what to expect and what your expectations are for members – it may be preparing for construction noise and dust or defining new entrances to your home or certain rooms or a shoes-off zone.
  2. Remove clutter and box up what you won’t need during the renovation process – start a few days ahead of time to avoid last-minute hustle.
  3. Set up alternative living spaces – if your kitchen will be under construction, make a temporary set up in your basement with hot plates, a microwave, crockpot and dishware.
  4. If there are parts of the process you promised to do yourself before the contractors arrive, make sure it’s done in time – you don’t want to be the one responsible for schedules getting off track.
  5. Take a deep breath. You’ll get through it!